Presented by Ian Tomlinson (UKCP registered Psychotherapist, Advanced Certified Imago Therapist and Certified Imago Workshop Presenter) and Joanna Groves (Psychotherapist and Couples Counsellor, UKATA).
Getting The Love You Want is a two day workshop to help you understand your relationship better and become more closely connected as a result.
The workshop was created by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt and is delivered in over 20 countries world-wide. It’s based on the New York Times best-selling book of the same name (if you want to buy a copy, click this link to be taken to Amazon)*
Joanna and I are partners in business and life and as part of the workshop. We’ll share our own experience of using Imago in our relationship. Hurdles inevitably arise when you commit to a long-term relationship.
We’ll talk about the times we have got stuck and how Imago has helped us keep moving toward a loving, connected relationship.
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We’ll take you on a journey through the six different stages of a relationship and share why each is as important as the next. The stages are:
There are a range of activities from lectures, Imago dialogues, written exercises and group discussion on what you think about the theory.
A central part of Imago Relationship Therapy is the dialogue process. This is a structured, safe way for you to talk to each other that will allow you both to express yourselves and be truly heard.
Imago dialogue is one of the first things you will learn in the workshop and you will use this throughout the two days to talk things through with your partner.
The second day of the workshop is mostly focused on the “Doing the work” stage of the relationship.
You will dialogue with your partner about ways to bring fun, surprises, love and connection into your relationship. You’ll also make a shared Relationship Vision. This is a plan for where you want your relationship to head in the future.
We will guide you at every stage and support you when you’re unsure of what to do.
No. It’s important to understand that this is an educational workshop not therapy. You will not be asked to share what’s going on in your relationship.
In fact the best thing to do is put that stuff in a box and take it out again after the workshop when you may be able to look at it with new eyes.
No. One of you is going to want to do this workshop more than the other. This is normal and perfectly OK. Within a couple of hours most people have realised they are safe, are not going to be shamed or exposed. You’ll see that you’re just like everyone else on the workshop – fallible human beings doing their best to have a relationship with someone who is different to them.
I promise you, once everyone is over the initial arrival nerves, they relax, learn and have a laugh with the group.
Putting a gun to your partner’s head and forcing them to come is kind of opposite to what the workshop is about. Neither of you will get much out of it if one of you is hating every minute!
The maximum space at the centre is for 5 couples. During exercises you’ll all spread around the therapy centre in our three rooms. To be clear, you won’t have total privacy. This is normal for workshops like this, which are often delivered in hotels with no privacy at all.
Once more, this is a workshop not therapy so you will not be talking about your heavy stuff, just learning to talk to each other safely so you can deal with that stuff when you get home.
We run the workshops approximately once every three months. Given that there are only 5 spaces each time the workshops tend to sell out very quickly.
These are the only Getting The Love You Want workshops run in the North of England. If you want a place get booked on by filling in this form and making payment. You snooze you lose!
Probably. You’re thinking of coming on the course, right? What type of person are you? That’s the sort of person attracted to the workshop.
Mostly our experience is couples like each other and can relate to each other’s experiences…to the point where we have to chivvy things along to get back on track!
Don’t do it. You will never be forced to share anything, do anything or believe anything that doesn’t fit.
We will look after you throughout the workshop, after all, this about how to create safety and connection in your relationship.
Sure! We’re happy to take £200 deposit then two further instalments of £200 and £150. We just ask that you have paid in full before the day of the workshop. If you want to pay this way just contact us here and we can sort it.
No. This course is for anyone who is in a committed relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are struggling, happy as Larry, six- months in, about to get married, whatever.
It also doesn’t matter if you are gay, straight, bi, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, Martian or Klingon. If you want a closer, more connected relationship, this is the workshop for you.
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This workshop changes lives. Read the testimonials. Every one of them is genuine from someone who has been on the course and been impacted by it. What’s stopping you?
Please note: These are the first ‘Getting the Love You Want’ workshops regularly running outside of London and as such are likely to be in high demand. Book early to avoid disappointment.
All workshops take place in The Affinity Centre, Cheadle branch. See full details of our location.
‘Getting the Love You Want’ costs £550 per couple.