Getting the Love You Want

Couples Educational Weekend Workshop

Presented by Ian Tomlinson (UKCP registered Psychotherapist, Advanced Certified Imago Therapist and Certified Imago Workshop Presenter) and Joanna Groves (Psychotherapist and Couples Counsellor, UKATA).

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What is the Getting The Love You Want couples workshop?

Getting The Love You Want is a two day workshop to help you understand your relationship better and become more closely connected as a result.

The workshop was created by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt and is delivered in over 20 countries world-wide.  It’s based on the New York Times best-selling book of the same name (if you want to buy a copy, click this link to be taken to Amazon)*

The workshop is presented by me – Ian Tomlinson (Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist and Imago Faculty Candidate) and Joanna Groves (UKCP registered psychotherapist).

Joanna and I are partners in business and life and as part of the workshop.  We’ll share our own experience of using Imago in our relationship.  Hurdles inevitably arise when you commit to a long-term relationship.

We’ll talk about the times we have got stuck and how Imago has helped us keep moving toward a loving, connected relationship.

*This is an affiliate link, if a several million people click on this link and buy a copy of the book I will be rich!

What happens in the workshop?

We’ll take you on a journey through the six different stages of a relationship and share why each is as important as the next. The stages are:

  • Romantic stage
  • Power Struggle
  • Recommitment
  • Doing the work
  • Awakening
  • Real love

There are a range of activities from lectures, Imago dialogues, written exercises and group discussion on what you think about the theory.

A central part of Imago Relationship Therapy is the dialogue process.  This is a structured, safe way for you to talk to each other that will allow you both to express yourselves and be truly heard.

Imago dialogue is one of the first things you will learn in the workshop and you will use this throughout the two days to talk things through with your partner.

The second day of the workshop is mostly focused on the “Doing the work” stage of the relationship.

You will dialogue with your partner about ways to bring fun, surprises, love and connection into your relationship. You’ll also make a shared Relationship Vision. This is a plan for where you want your relationship to head in the future.

We will guide you at every stage and support you when you’re unsure of what to do.

Common questions (and fears) about the Getting The Love You Want workshop.

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Do I have to share my stuff (biggest fear for most people)?

No.  It’s important to understand that this is an educational workshop not therapy.  You will not be asked to share what’s going on in your relationship.

In fact the best thing to do is put that stuff in a box and take it out again after the workshop when you may be able to look at it with new eyes.

My other half is very reluctant to come, should I force them?

No.  One of you is going to want to do this workshop more than the other. This is normal and perfectly OK.  Within a couple of hours most people have realised they are safe, are not going to be shamed or exposed. You’ll see that you’re just like everyone else on the workshop – fallible human beings doing their best to have a relationship with someone who is different to them.

I promise you, once everyone is over the initial arrival nerves, they relax, learn and have a laugh with the group.

Putting a gun to your partner’s head and forcing them to come is kind of opposite to what the workshop is about.  Neither of you will get much out of it if one of you is hating every minute!

How many couples will be there?

The maximum space at the centre is for 5 couples.  During exercises you’ll all spread around the therapy centre in our three rooms. To be clear, you won’t have total privacy.  This is normal for workshops like this, which are often delivered in hotels with no privacy at all.

Once more, this is a workshop not therapy so you will not be talking about your heavy stuff, just learning to talk to each other safely so you can deal with that stuff when you get home.

How often are the workshops?

We run the workshops approximately once every three months.  Given that there are only 5 spaces each time the workshops tend to sell out very quickly.

These are the only Getting The Love You Want workshops run in the North of England.  If you want a place get booked on by filling in this form and making payment.  You snooze you lose!

Will I like the other couples on the workshop?

Probably.  You’re thinking of coming on the course, right?  What type of person are you?  That’s the sort of person attracted to the workshop.

Mostly our experience is couples like each other and can relate to each other’s experiences…to the point where we have to chivvy things along to get back on track!

What if I don’t want to do some of the workshop?

Don’t do it.  You will never be forced to share anything, do anything or believe anything that doesn’t fit.

We will look after you throughout the workshop, after all, this about how to create safety and connection in your relationship.

£550 is a big whack for us, could we pay in instalments?

Sure! We’re happy to take £200 deposit then two further instalments of £200 and £150.  We just ask that you have paid in full before the day of the workshop.  If you want to pay this way just contact us here and we can sort it.

Is this just a course for people who are struggling in their relationship?

No.  This course is for anyone who is in a committed relationship.  It doesn’t matter if you are struggling, happy as Larry, six- months in, about to get married, whatever.

It also doesn’t matter if you are gay, straight, bi, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, Martian or Klingon.  If you want a closer, more connected relationship, this is the workshop for you.

We are coming from afar ... where should we stay?

Ooh I’m pleased you asked because I’ve just written a short post about that – click here to find out where you should stay in Cheadle, Cheshire.

Now we are here we want to eat in Cheadle - where should we go?

I’m even more pleased that you asked me that because I’ve just written a ginormous post on this too – read it here and prepare for your mouth to water.

I’ve got another question; how can I ask it?

Fill in this contact form and one of us will get back to you quickly.

How do I sign up?

Click here to be taken to the sign up  and payment form

Lastly

This workshop changes lives.  Read the testimonials.  Every one of them is genuine from someone who has been on the course and been impacted by it. What’s stopping you?

Wonderful

"Teaches you to fight for your relationship instead of fighting your relationship."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T09:54:52+01:00
"Teaches you to fight for your relationship instead of fighting your relationship."

Made us feel normal

"The workshop normalised our struggles making us willing to open up and share."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:07:44+01:00
"The workshop normalised our struggles making us willing to open up and share."

Felt safe

"This course is challenging but ultimately rewarding. It created a safe environment to understand my partner."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:10:39+01:00
"This course is challenging but ultimately rewarding. It created a safe environment to understand my partner."

Wonderful

"A wonderful and loving way to invest in your relationship."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:12:20+01:00
"A wonderful and loving way to invest in your relationship."

Well prepared

"Ian and Joanna were both very well prepared and are very good therapists."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:13:59+01:00
"Ian and Joanna were both very well prepared and are very good therapists."

Warm and open

"Warm and open. Used amazing examples from their own lives to make the whole experience relatable."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:15:41+01:00
"Warm and open. Used amazing examples from their own lives to make the whole experience relatable."

Helpful

"Lots of breaks. They were very helpful to let you think about what you had learnt."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:17:04+01:00
"Lots of breaks. They were very helpful to let you think about what you had learnt."

Felt ‘held’

"I loved the way everybody was 'held' by you both and your obvious enthusiasm for Imago. Thank you!"
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:20:01+01:00
"I loved the way everybody was 'held' by you both and your obvious enthusiasm for Imago. Thank you!"

Knowledgeable

"Very confident and knowledgeable. Challenged us but cared and kept us safe."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:24:08+01:00
"Very confident and knowledgeable. Challenged us but cared and kept us safe."

You’ve protected our marriage

"I think you've protected our marriage for a long time."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-08-14T10:25:05+01:00
"I think you've protected our marriage for a long time."

An Excellent Workshop

"An excellent workshop run by warm, friendly and approachable presenters."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-12-07T12:38:07+01:00
"An excellent workshop run by warm, friendly and approachable presenters."

Excited!

"I feel excited and re-energised about the future of my relationship with my partner."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-12-07T12:39:18+01:00
"I feel excited and re-energised about the future of my relationship with my partner."

Highly skilled

"A highly skilled, knowledgeable team teaching practical approaches to help loving and understanding."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-12-07T12:41:13+01:00
"A highly skilled, knowledgeable team teaching practical approaches to help loving and understanding."

Great workshop

"Ian and Joanna were knowledgeable and skilled in offering a safe and structured environment to help me grow. Great techniques so accessible and easy to apply in the real world."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-12-07T12:43:55+01:00
"Ian and Joanna were knowledgeable and skilled in offering a safe and structured environment to help me grow. Great techniques so accessible and easy to apply in the real world."

Try it!

"I got more out of this than I expected. Try it!"
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2016-12-07T12:44:35+01:00
"I got more out of this than I expected. Try it!"

Find certainty

"If you doubt your relationship, come to this workshop to find certainty."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-03-12T11:05:22+01:00
"If you doubt your relationship, come to this workshop to find certainty."

Rediscovery

"I rediscovered how fantastic my wife is."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-03-12T11:07:53+01:00
"I rediscovered how fantastic my wife is."

Decluttering our relationship

"The Imago dialogue process allowed us to declutter our 32-year-old relationship and move forward to a very positive space."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-03-12T11:14:41+01:00
"The Imago dialogue process allowed us to declutter our 32-year-old relationship and move forward to a very positive space."

Excellent facilitators

"Ian and Joanna are excellent facilitators of this course, they are fun and knowledgable!"
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-03-12T11:22:36+01:00
"Ian and Joanna are excellent facilitators of this course, they are fun and knowledgable!"

I wish we’d done this earlier

"I'd wish we'd done the Getting the Love You Want workshop earlier. I fancy offering such a weekend for all the young couples in my family."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-10-01T12:23:11+01:00
"I'd wish we'd done the Getting the Love You Want workshop earlier. I fancy offering such a weekend for all the young couples in my family."

Extremely worthwhile for our relationship

"A fabulous course presented very professionally and yet in an approachable and friendly manner. Extremely worthwhile for our relationship."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-10-01T12:25:51+01:00
"A fabulous course presented very professionally and yet in an approachable and friendly manner. Extremely worthwhile for our relationship."

Inspiring

"Thank you for being fun, inspiring, open and easy-going."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-10-01T12:28:44+01:00
"Thank you for being fun, inspiring, open and easy-going."

A positive impact on our lives

"Guidance was informative, useful and will have a positive impact on our lives."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-10-01T12:30:26+01:00
"Guidance was informative, useful and will have a positive impact on our lives."

Now we are flying high!

"We had lost the ability to communicate and hadn't felt a strong connection for years. Now we are flying high! (And I remember my husband is really hot!)
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-10-01T12:33:03+01:00
"We had lost the ability to communicate and hadn't felt a strong connection for years. Now we are flying high! (And I remember my husband is really hot!)

Very safe environment, very professional

"Ian and Joanna created a very safe environment for us to explore our deepest, darkest fears. They were great co-presenters, very professional."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:39:31+01:00
"Ian and Joanna created a very safe environment for us to explore our deepest, darkest fears. They were great co-presenters, very professional."

Looking forward to applying everything I’ve learned

"A very insightful and enjoyable workshop. Looking forward to applying everything I've learned."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:42:34+01:00
"A very insightful and enjoyable workshop. Looking forward to applying everything I've learned."

Helped me make a massive change

"I found the course extremely useful and has helped me make a massive change in communicating with my partner."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:44:22+01:00
"I found the course extremely useful and has helped me make a massive change in communicating with my partner."

Helped us deal with difficult issues

"Ian and Joanna were welcoming, knowledgable and put me at ease... helped us deal with difficult issues in a sensitive way."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:47:01+01:00
"Ian and Joanna were welcoming, knowledgable and put me at ease... helped us deal with difficult issues in a sensitive way."

Fab weekend!

"It was fun and safe. It was a fab weekend."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:49:30+01:00
"It was fun and safe. It was a fab weekend."

Very relatable

"Warmth of the staff made me feel safe and happy to contribute... Love the fact it was delivered by a couple, made it very relatable."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:52:49+01:00
"Warmth of the staff made me feel safe and happy to contribute... Love the fact it was delivered by a couple, made it very relatable."

Warm and welcoming

"Ian and Joanna are so warm and welcoming, I surprised myself by feeling very comfortable and willing to contribute."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2018-12-04T10:54:23+01:00
"Ian and Joanna are so warm and welcoming, I surprised myself by feeling very comfortable and willing to contribute."

Lots of ideas to put into practice

"At the end of this weekend I have lots of ideas to put into practice."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-06-11T11:51:07+01:00
"At the end of this weekend I have lots of ideas to put into practice."

A deeper understanding and new commitment

"I feel like I am coming away with a deeper understanding of my partner and new commitment to having the best relationship we can!"
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-06-11T11:54:12+01:00
"I feel like I am coming away with a deeper understanding of my partner and new commitment to having the best relationship we can!"

Suitable for all couples, no matter what challenges you face

"This weekend would be extremely valuable for all couples to attend. It helps to enrich relationships no matter what level of challenges you face."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-06-11T11:56:50+01:00
"This weekend would be extremely valuable for all couples to attend. It helps to enrich relationships no matter what level of challenges you face."

Feeling hopeful

"What we learned this weekend has helped us to recommit to our relationship, feeling clear about what we want and hopeful because it feels achievable."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-06-11T11:59:24+01:00
"What we learned this weekend has helped us to recommit to our relationship, feeling clear about what we want and hopeful because it feels achievable."

Provided a safe place to be honest

"The workshop provided a safe place to be honest and real with no judgement  - just loads of practical tools to help us have the best marriage possible."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:20:00+01:00
"The workshop provided a safe place to be honest and real with no judgement  - just loads of practical tools to help us have the best marriage possible."

A revitalising experience for our relationship

"A welcoming and positive environment. A revitalising experience or our relationship."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:28:46+01:00
"A welcoming and positive environment. A revitalising experience or our relationship."

Useful for professional work and personal relationships

"I enjoyed the workshop. I learned a lot that I can use for both my professional work and my personal relationships."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:39:33+01:00
"I enjoyed the workshop. I learned a lot that I can use for both my professional work and my personal relationships."

Reassuring

"Joanna and Ian share an obvious passion for the things they teach and are willing to be open about their own journeys, which is reassuring."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:41:13+01:00
"Joanna and Ian share an obvious passion for the things they teach and are willing to be open about their own journeys, which is reassuring."

Practical tools we can take home and practice

"A very full weekend. Lots of interesting information along with application of practical tools we can take home and practice."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:43:11+01:00
"A very full weekend. Lots of interesting information along with application of practical tools we can take home and practice."

Strongly recommend

"It was great, Ian and Joanna are very competent and welcoming. Strongly recommend."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:44:16+01:00
"It was great, Ian and Joanna are very competent and welcoming. Strongly recommend."

Safe and welcoming

"Thank you for teaching us all these amazing tools and creating a warm, safe and welcoming environment."
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:45:35+01:00
"Thank you for teaching us all these amazing tools and creating a warm, safe and welcoming environment."

Gifted us the tool of DIALOGUE!

"Ian and Joanna have been exceptional at walking us through the concepts of Imago and have gifted us the tool of DIALOGUE!"
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-26T20:47:08+01:00
"Ian and Joanna have been exceptional at walking us through the concepts of Imago and have gifted us the tool of DIALOGUE!"

One of the best investments

"One of the best investments you'll make in your marriage!"
Getting The Love You Want Workshop
2019-09-25T14:00:22+01:00
"One of the best investments you'll make in your marriage!"

Where and When?

Please note: These are the first ‘Getting the Love You Want’ workshops regularly running outside of London and as such are likely to be in high demand. Book early to avoid disappointment.

All workshops take place in The Affinity Centre, Cheadle branch. See full details of our location.

How Much?

‘Getting the Love You Want’ costs £550 per couple.

Any Questions?

If you have any questions at all about this workshop, please get in touch via our contact form.

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February 2020

Getting The Love You Want

Saturday 1 February, 2020 @ 9:30 am - Sunday 2 February, 2020 @ 6:00 pm
The Affinity Centre, 7A High Street
Cheadle, SK8 1AX United Kingdom
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£550
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May 2020

Getting The Love You Want

Saturday 23 May, 2020 @ 9:30 am - Sunday 24 May, 2020 @ 6:00 pm
The Affinity Centre, 7A High Street
Cheadle, SK8 1AX United Kingdom
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£550
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September 2020

Getting The Love You Want

Saturday 26 September, 2020 @ 9:30 am - Sunday 27 September, 2020 @ 6:00 pm
The Affinity Centre, 7A High Street
Cheadle, SK8 1AX United Kingdom
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£550
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December 2020

Getting The Love You Want

Saturday 5 December, 2020 @ 9:30 am - Sunday 6 December, 2020 @ 6:00 pm
The Affinity Centre, 7A High Street
Cheadle, SK8 1AX United Kingdom
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£550
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