The Best Way to Respond to a Compliment

“It’s easier to give good words about others than it is to receive the good words they give to us…”     What do you think about this statement that Dr Kelly Flanagan uses to begin this article?

This is a great piece of writing that really puts things into perspective. He describes the fact that we say thank you when we receive a compliment because it is a social convention. We say thank you out of embarrassment, surprise, or to fill that uncomfortable moment. Now find out what he learnt from his young son by clicking on the link below…..

The Best Way to Respond to a Compliment | UnTangled.


Ian Tomlinson

I am the Director of the Affinity Centre and provide therapy and counselling in Wilmslow for straight and gay individuals and couples. My intention is to support you in making the changes you want in your life so you can feel happier, more contented and at peace in the world.

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  1. Really enjoyed today’s post about ‘How to respond to a compliment’ Ian. I also like the way you have 3 recent posts in the email. My idea is that in TA terms the article is inviting us to respond to compliments from our ‘free child’ rather than ‘adapted child’ ego state… a powerful way to have the compliment ‘land’, ‘hit home’ and impact.

    • Thanks for the comment Richard and I think you’re right. Many of us struggle with accepting compliments so coming from Free Child is much more likely to allow us to take them in.

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