The concept of self-direction, based on personal freedom, is the essence of this non-directive approach to counselling. The aim is to move from a position of being someone who others do things to, to being on a journey to discover your true worth.
“The less we value ourselves, the more we are drawn to work hard to ensure people’s affection, approval and acceptance” (D. Rowe, “The Successful Self”, 1993).
There is a shift from ‘doing’ to ‘being’ when a person stops seeking acceptance and approval of others. Self-understanding leads to self-acceptance, which leads in turn to a healthy, fulfilled person. Person-centred counselling is about trying to help people move towards change, growth and fulfillment, and to regain the ability to act freely.
Below is a video of the originator of the person centred approach, Carl Rogers, talking about his modality.