From February 2016 I am going to be running a Men’s Development Group at The Affinity Centre.
The group will run twice a month (mostly fortnightly but sometimes consecutive weeks due to holidays). The cost will be £80 a month (£20 an hour).
Why men only?
The vast majority of men I have worked with have grown up with the message that it is not OK to talk about feelings. We have to “be strong” and “man up”. This can leave us in a bit of a mess.
It’s for this reason that suicide is the number one cause of death for men under 45, why we die of preventable illnesses, why we don’t resolve our relationship problems early enough and end up in unhappy relationships and why we get ourselves into “situations” after drinking too much or taking drugs.
Men have very different social networks to women. We rarely talk about our stuff with our friends and family and can often feel isolated and alone whilst putting on a “brave face” for others.
I want to give the men I work with another experience. An experience where we do share what’s going on for us in our lives.
Initially this may feel scary but if you have worked with me at all you will know that I am supportive and always encourage moving towards what’s important in your life over feelings which tend to come and go.
Why group therapy?
We are born in relationship, brought up in relationship and live our lives in groups. It makes sense then that resolving your issues can be addressed successfully in a group setting. There are lots of reasons why group therapy can be a really effective way to have therapy, here are some of them;
The group mirrors how you behave outside in your personal relationships
The group can give you an opportunity to see how you behave in the group mirrors how you behave in other important relationships in your life. This gives you a great opportunity to challenge these patterns of behaviour in a supportive environment if they are not useful to you. For example, if you are the sort of person who agrees to keep the peace and you find that you are doing this all the time in the group there is an opportunity to try out challenging instead. My role as the group facilitator will be to support you in this process and the group, full of supportive people, gives you a chance to “try this on” and see how it feels.
The group provides a safe place to explore what’s going on for you
A condition of group membership is the adherence to an “I’m OK, You’re OK” philosophy. This provides you the space to talk through your issues in a supportive environment where others may well be going through the same thing. It also creates a space where you can listen to other people’s issues. This may help you understand your own and helps you see that you are not alone in finding things hard at times.
Confidentiality is agreed in the group so no-one will be discussing what you said outside the group. The other members will have an input into the issues you bring inside the group though, which can also be useful in helping you resolve your stuff.
You will be encouraged to feel your feelings
The group will provide a space for you to work out what you are feeling, understand those feelings and express them in a healthy way. As group leader I will help and support you with this in an open and honest way. I think it’s also important to see how what’s going on for you impacts on others too. This gives you another way to see how you fit with others.
It’s cost effective
Group therapy is less that half the price of individual therapy. The cost for a two hour group therapy session is £40. An individual session with me costs £60 for 50 minutes. This makes group therapy less than half the cost of individual therapy.
How much does it cost?
Group therapy costs £40 for a two hour session. You will be required to pay £80 upfront for the month each month. You pay to be a member of the group so if you do not turn up you will be expected to pay for the session anyway. I would also ask that you let me know if you can’t make the group session or you are going to be late. The group dynamic will be altered if members of the group are missing and other group members may well be concerned about your wellbeing.
What are the rules?
- You have to have worked with me individually for at least 8 weeks to make sure you will fit and benefit from the group process.
- Everything discussed in the group is confidential. What’s said in the room stays in the room.
- You commit to coming for 10 weeks. You’re either in or out. I want you to commit to doing this and commit to turning up every session.
- You pay monthly upfront at the beginning of the month by standing order (£80 a month for 4 hours group time).
- You leave all macho BS at the door. We don’t need it in the group. This is about dropping the facade and showing who you really are.
- You treat others in the group in an I’m OK, You’re OK way. This is a supportive environment. You will be encouraged to give and receive support.
- Maximum 8 people in the group. Minimum 4 to go ahead.
How do I join?
Simply contact me directly on 07966 390857 or fill in the contact form below. You will be required to have at least eight individual therapy sessions with me (the cost for this is £60 per session) and from there we will decide whether you are a good fit for the group or whether you may need some more individual sessions first. This is important because there are some individuals who may not benefit from the group dynamic.