Ian Tomlinson is a UKCP registered Psychotherapist and the Director of The Affinity Centre. He is an expert in working with anxiety, stress and jealousy and relationship issues. Ian is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist ( one of two outside of London) and also trains and supervises at the centre.
If you are reading this you are probably feeling stuck with something in your life. This could be that you are struggling with anxiety, feeling depressed or hopeless, or unsure of what to do in a relationship with someone that’s important to you.
If you decide to work with me then we will work together to move you in the direction of what’s important in your life. We will examine what’s getting in your way and look at how thoughts and feelings may be taking you away from having a rich fulfilling life.
I find that the vast majority of the clients that work with me come away with a higher level of contentment and more able to engage in the here and now. They are able to connect more with their values and get on with doing the things that they really want to do without being held back by unwanted thoughts and feelings.
ACT will teach you ways to deal with your thoughts and feelings differently so that they have much less influence over you. It will also help you be clear on what is truly important in your life and use this information to motivate you to change your life for the better.
TA will provide a great framework to understand why you are doing what you are doing and what makes you tick. You can then use this knowledge to do things differently, allowing you to move towards a more enriching life.
I love both approaches and teach both to other therapists and counsellors. They are great tools to help you get unstuck and get on with your life.
Who I work with
I work with anyone who feels stuck. I tend to see lots of clients who are struggling with anxiety (and I know a thing or two about that from personal experience). I have also become a bit of an expert in jealousy and anger from working with many many clients who have come to me with these issues.
I work with many men (who sometimes feel more comfortable talking to another man) and also work with women too.
I have lots of experience working with sexually diverse clients (gay, lesbian and bisexual) and have trained and maintain links with Pink Therapy in London to keep me up to date with GSD client issues.
I have spent years training in couples therapy and relationship counselling so have a real interest in what helps two people connect. As a result of this I work with a lot of couples using Imago Relationship Therapy and work with individuals on how they can improve their relationships if their partner will not come to therapy. One person doing things differently in a relationship can make a big difference.
I love my work. If I won the lottery tomorrow I would buy a nice car and then keep doing what I’m doing. I feel really lucky to say that.
I get a real buzz from seeing my client’s lives change.
Seeing people connect with their loved ones in new, deeper ways because they have dropped behaviours that are getting in the way is hugely rewarding for me.
Celebrating with clients that have got themselves back to work after long periods off with anxiety or watching a depressed client re-engage with life is both a pleasure and an honour.
Sitting with a client who is contacting their sadness or grief for the first time brings meaning to my life – it’s important to me and gives my life real purpose.
I’m also completely fascinated by how humans work and spend much of my time outside of my therapy room reading and writing about such things.
If you want to read some of the stuff I have written you can check out my blogs, full of information on therapy and personal development.
My current blog with my most recent ramblings is iantomlinson.co.uk Have a look and see if the sort of thing I talk about on there is the sort of thing you are interested in.